Baby Daddies

I have heard/read/ and listened in on conversations that your first child looks more like the man than all other children. The reason (per the writings and studies) is that pre-scientific evidence, the men would be able to know, even in cave times, that the child was THEIRS.

I find this concept interesting. Where does that leave people like me? I have previously been married and had the most amazing child. Yes, my son does in some instances resemble his father/my ex, however; my son looks and acts sooo much like my father that I am a believer in the NATURE versus nurture debate. His actions and logic is beyond where my brain usually ventures. He is logical and rational and uses reasoning like a weapon. I am in awe of this more often than I will admit in public very often. I am non of those. I am emotional and moved by my heart. We are near opposites when it comes to choices and making decisions. I do not wish to change him, but there are some times that my emotional and heart led brain struggles to explain "WHY." to my logical and reasoning child.

Back to my original idea, if my son did not necessarily follow this idea, does that mean that my next child will not ? I find this sad. I kind like the idea of being able to look at baby pictures of a man I love and know that the possibility of my next child looking like said loved man . My ex husband had the most dominate genetics ever. His eyes, hair, skin all are considered "dominate" per the whole Mendel's dominate/ recessive notion about predicting the outcome of offspring.

BUT.. my son is not dark, does not have dark eyes, and does not have dark hair. He is the genetic hopscotch king and skipped all of that. Let me pause for a moment and address a weird and wonderful thing. My son came out, DARK.. hair, skin, eyes, everything. He could have been a doppelganger for his dad.... BUT within a small window he no longer is any of those.

I confess that I have a personal weakness for men with brown eyes. I even somewhat hoped my son ( prior to his arrival outside of the belly home) would have them. I have NO complaints that my child looks nothing like what I assumed he would look like because I think he is altogether amazing and handsome in a way I couldn't have imagined.

I wonder if men hope their children will look like them? How does that work? If you are in a committed relationship and make babies, do the men still dream that the offspring will look the most like them? Do daddies even think about that? Has the genetic tide pool shifted over time? Has the need for children to look like their fathers receded over time?

I sometimes wish I had a magic ball and could look into what I hope to be my future life and see if my subsequent babies look like their dad or like me...

I sorda hope that they look like their father. Why wouldn't I want a kid(s) to look like the man I love?
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