New Years is for quitters

Many people write new year resolutions. They vow to stop doing things like smoking and to start doing things like eat veggies and exercise. I don't make resolutions with the new year. I don't know too many people who have been successful when it comes to them and I do not want to feel badly about myself for returning to things that I've been surviving doing. I do think that people need to declutter.

I come from a long line of hoarders and pack rats. I have had to work at adjusting and limiting myself to what I "keep" and deem as important. I do mean declutter as in tangible things that one can hold and touch....But what if we started removing clutter from our hearts and thoughts. I believe that people can not grow and become the person that they are destined to be if they are being held back by mental boxes filled with old broken pieces of ourselves.

Can you become a fully involved love to someone if you are holding onto things like bitterness and anger over past choices that they have made? Why allow the other person to live rent free inside your head and hold any kind of power of your thoughts. If you are holding those feelings, you are limiting the space inside your emotions. How can you grow into someone kind and giving if you spend your free time trying to replay previous things other people have said to you? Will you truly be able to be the best version of yourself if you are fertilizing your thoughts with hatred, bitterness, and anguish?

Instead of making ANOTHER year's resolution about eating mashed cauliflower every single week - why not unpack the hatred of others? Remove the emotions that keep you cranky and throw them away. Pack away the people who do not belong within the limited space of your thoughts and send them away for good. Unseal the tape on the boxes in your head filled with worries and fears. Your head only has so much time and processing power- clean it like a computer of all the "bugs" that are limiting you. Stop holding yourself back with regret and mistakes. Acknowledge the past, apologize and ask for forgiveness- and move the regret and mistakes out of your head.

Purge yourself of anything that keeps your internal dialog mean or cruel. No one deserves to make you feel bad about yourself or your  past mistakes long term - especially yourself. You alone are the secretary that allows these thoughts into the "boss" of your brain. Stop permitting all the dark and ugly in.

Would you rather fill your head with wonder and amazement or worry and atonement over things that have already been dealt with?

You hold the keys to the clutter inside your own head- allow it to take up space or clean it out.

New Years is for quitters. Quit allowing what you do not want inside your head to control your thoughts and mental health.